Shame


 

:For the film by Ingmar Bergman, see Shame (film). For the novel by Salman Rushdie, see Shame (novel).

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Ingmar Bergman - Shame (film) - Salman Rushdie - Shame (novel)

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Shame is a social condition and a form of social control consisting of an emotional state and a set of behaviors, caused by the consciousness or awareness of having acted inappropriately. Intense shame may lead to depression or suicide.

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Emotion - Depression - Suicide

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Shame differs from embarrassment in that it does not necessarily involve public humiliation; one can feel shame for an act known only to oneself, but in order to be embarrassed, one's actions must be revealed to others. Also, shame carries the connotation of a response to actions that are considered morally wrong, whereas one can be embarrassed regarding actions that are morally neutral but socially unacceptable (such as an accident). Another view of the difference between shame and embarrassment is that the two emotions lie on a continuum and only differ in intensity. The wish to sink into the ground and disappear from view, to hide oneself from eyes that witness one's humiliation is common to both.

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Shame has been linked to narcissism in the psychoanalytic literature. It is one of the most intense emotions. The individual experiencing shame may feel totally despicable, worthless and feel that there is no redemption.

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According to the anthropologist Ruth Benedict, cultures may be classified by their emphasis of using either shame or guilt to regulate the social activities of their members. Asian cultures, as for example China and Japan, are considered shame cultures. European and modern American cultures, as for example the United States, are considered guilt cultures. For example, traditional Japanese and Ancient Greek society are sometimes said to be "shame-based" rather than "guilt-based" in that the social consequences of "getting caught" are seen as more important than the individual feelings or experiences of the agent.

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Ruth Benedict - Culture - Guilt - Asia - China - Japan - United States

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Shared opinions and expectated behaviours that cause the feeling of shame (as well as an associated reproval) if violated by an individual are in any case proven to be very efficient in guiding behaviour in a group or society.

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Former Labour, Tory and Lib Dem members on BNP list

The leaked British National party list contains the names of individuals who are former members of all the mainstream political parties in England, it emerged today.A former constituency chairman for the Conservatives, a former Labour prospective parliamentary candidate, and a church minister who had been at various times a Green, a Conservative and a Liberal Democrat, all went public on why they had switched parties in the wake of the leaking of a BNP members' list.Lionel Buck said he was chairman of Ashfield Conservative association in Nottinghamshire for about four years, joining the BNP two years ago. He told the Guardian: "The way the country is at the moment, there is no major party, whether it be Conservative, Labour or Liberal Democrat, looking after the indigenous population."Andrew Emerson said he had been due to fight Chichester in Sussex for the Labour party in 1997 before illness ruled him out, but joined the BNP in 2005, when he had been the party's candidate for Broxbourne, Hertfordshire. He had since tried to get elected to Chichester council, in his last attempt last month gaining 12.3% of the vote in the ward. The main reason for changing parties was "my unhappiness with the [Labour] party's open-door immigration policy, making no attempt whatever to control immigration ... and to properly control our borders".John Stanton, who heads the Rock Dene Christian Fellowship in his home town in Rochford, Essex, with a congregation of 22, had also been a Green, a member of Ukip, a Lib Dem councillor in the 1990s and a member of the Conservatives in the 1970s. He told the Press Association that "the flood of immigration" was a problem, as was Islam and the European Union. He said he had been with the BNP for eight months.A worried Labour MP, whose constituency is about 98% white and appears to have the most BNP members, told the Guardian it was sometimes difficult to address concerns of communities "stirred up by malicious and false information".Colin Challen, MP for Morley and Rothwell in Yorkshire, where there are 90 members according to the list, said it was "very disappointing that local people, even to that extent, have been persuaded to believe the racist claptrap and hate politics of the BNP".But research indicated, he said, that "sadly it is very often the case that areas which have a very small ethnic minority population and large working class population have developed pockets of support for the British National party". It was a "matter of shame" that a seat on Leeds city council that fell within his constituency was held by a BNP member. The main political parties had to understand the concerns of communities and work to address them, even in the face of inflammatory information. The Labour party said it would expel anyone found to be a member of the BNP; the Lib Dems "deplored" its beliefs and tactics; and the Conservatives said all mainstream parties "have an obligation to address the voter alienation and disillusionment that fuels support for extremism". Nine people on the BNP membership list are said to be former Conservatives, but the party said it only knew of six, and they had been associated with party some years ago.Meanwhile, a police officer whose name appeared on the BNP list was tonight suspended from duty by Merseyside police, a spokesman for the force said. PC Stephen Bettley, who worked as a driver for the chief constable, Bernard Hogan-Howe, in 2006, returned early from a holiday abroad tonight to help the force with an investigation into his alleged involvement. Police are banned from becoming members of the far-right party because it conflicts with obligations under race relations laws.BNP and the far rightLabourLiberal DemocratsRace issuesPoliceguardian.co.uk © Guardian News & Media Limited 2008 | Use of this content is subject to our Terms & Conditions | More Feeds

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Return to the Premiership: Sarries v Glaws Preview

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HP Pavilion DV6105us - Tip on Getting Built-in Broadcom Wireless Card to Work

Update 3:Well, the solution I tried in Update 2 did not work. But, I have some good news. I bought a USB wirless adapter by D-Link from NewEgg.com. It's the D-Link Wireless G DWL-G122 USB Adapter. (It was $20 after a $10 rebate. And it arrived very quickly - NewEgg.com is just great!)I deactivated the old (and somewhat useless) Broadcom Wireless G device in the Device Manager. I then installed the D-Link driver from the CD, and restarted the computer. I eagerly inserted the tiny D-Link device into the USB port, and waited. It was discovered successfully as a new hardware device. It then asked me for a "WEP key". In my wireless G home network configuration, I have two keys, a shorter "WEP phrase" and a longer (28 character) key. At first I entered the shorter "WEP phrase". It then tried to connect to my home network, but got stuck at the "acquiring network address phase". I knew something was wrong. So I went into the properties for the wireless connection, and re-entered the longer key. I then disconnected from the network, and re-connected. Finally, it worked!It seems that the built-in Broadcom device with the HP Pavilion 6105 laptop does not work some 60% of the time. Now I know why this laptop was so severely discounted. People must've been returning it in droves. Besides this rather serious flaw, it seems otherwise fine (knock on wood). I was close to returning this laptop, but it seems D-Link has saved the day!Update 2:With a bit more investigation, I found out the specfic error that occured when the Windows Device Manager showed a yellow exclamation point icon next to the Broadcom Wireless entry. If you right click on the entry and choose "Properties", you get this error: This device cannot find enough free resources that it can use. (Code 12)If in the Device Manager you choose "View | Devices By Connection", then choose "PCI bus", you'll see that the Broadcom Wirless device is listed under the "PCI standard PCI-to-PCI bridge" section.With a bit of googling, I came up with a somewhat older article that described problems eerily similar to mine:The problems occur when the motherboard manufacturer has added a PCI-to-PCI bridge to extend the PCI bus further, or a daughter board or backplane with PCI bus slots has a additional PCI bridge incorporated. These are usually 'positive decode' PCI-to-PCI bridges. The standard Windows PCI drivers do not support enumeration of 'positive decode' PCI bridges. This means that on these systems you are likely to have problems with allocation of resources. These problems usually show up as failures of the PCMCIA controller in Windows 9x/Me/2000 and XP as 'Code 10' or 'Code 12' failures and a 'No PCMCIA controller found' message in Windows NT4.It goes on to add:This motherboard contains the nVIDIA® nForce 420D Chipset, and the offending PCI-to-PCI bridge is the nVIDIA-nForce PCI Bridge made by nVIDIA Corporation. Other motherboards with this chipset (like the Asus A7N266-E) may also not be supported in Windows, but we have no test results for these.So, it seems an older version of nVidia was involved in the situation described above, with a similar "Code 12" error occuring with a PCI-to-PCI bridge. I'm no hardware expert, and I don't really understand how PCI-to-PCI bridges work, but I thought I'd give upgrading the NVIDIA GeForce Go 6150 to the latest driver available through Windows Update (Date last published: 10/18/2006, Download size: 52.6 MB). I installed it, and it asked me to reboot.This time the wireless connection did work! Let's see if this was just a one-time success, or if this fix lasts. I'll keep you posted.Update: after a couple of days of hassle-free working, the new driver played the same trick on me: it stopped working. Rebooting Windows a couple of times, the second time with the switch off while it was booting did the trick. I'm beginning to think that there is no logic that can predict when this device will stop or start working. The best solution may be to get another ExpressCard 54 / 34 card to put in the laptop. My old PCMCIA cards sadly won't work! I recently bought a new HP Pavilion DV6105us laptop from Staples. It was a good buy, and had everything I was looking for: a 64 bit Windows Vista chip (an AMD Turion), enough memory, a decent hard drive, built-in wireless, and even a CD and DVD burner! The screen is really bright and glossy - it's the best looking laptop screen that I've seen or owned.As I began using the laptop, I noticed a serious problem: every time I put the laptop into sleep mode, and then re-awakened it, it was not able to find any wireless networks. (As mentioned before, the laptop came with a built-in Broadcom 802.11b/g WLAN wireless "card".) Sometimes, even more strangely, it brought up the Windows "found new hardware" wizard. Ironically, this wizard did not know what kind of hardware it had just detected, and was of no use.I searched HP's laptop support site, and downloaded what seemed to be a new driver. It in fact was the same driver that came with my laptop. The driver version that came with laptop had the following information (from the Windows Device Manager):Version: 4.40.19.0Date: 3/23/2006The actual driver's name was BCMWL5.SYS.Since HP's "updated" driver was of no use, I tried Broadcom's site next. Their site was not at all useful - their search engine was unable to find anything related to my card, and their product page had no links to any drivers. It's a shame that Broadcom, unlike other vendors, does not make drivers available from their site.I then searched Google, and found a lot of pages on getting this card to work under Linux. I love Linux as much as the next geek, but this time around I was running Windows XP (shame on me, I know), and I needed it to work with XP, not Linux.Finally, I came across a message on Dell's support forums. Dell evidently uses the same wireless card in their laptops. The forum mentioned that I could get an updated version of the driver from Microsoft's Windows Update site.That version of the driver fixed the issues I had with the card.Here's how you can get it:On Windows Update, one has to first choose "Custom". Then, one has to go to "Hardware, Optional Items". Uncheck the fifty or so non-hardware choices, leaving the just update for the Broadcom card (listed at the bottom).Then install it. Your Internet connection may stop working after you install it. Just restart your computer, and it should now work correctly.

"Holy" Seduction Sparks Lawsuit Against Priest (AHN)

(AHN) - A woman from Queens, New York is suing a Catholic priest for seducing her saying she suffered stress, anxiety, guilt, fear, humiliation and shame from the affair he justified as "ordained by God." - Thu, 30 Oct 2008 22:34:29 GMT

Eco-Friendly Boating Relies on Technology and Sacrifice

The summer of 2008 was tough on drivers who were used to cheap gas and inefficient cars, but boaters were more apt to upgrade their inefficient technology and make lifestyle changes as the marine industry embraced fuel efficiency. We know that pleasure boating is a lot more of a discretionary activity than driving to work -- but the model of sacrifice and innovation is one to keep in mind for the future of all transportation. New technologies ranging from more efficient two-stroke engines to longer-range electric boats have given pleasure boaters an opportunity to go green on the blue ocean. Evinrude's now-venerable E-Tec line of two-stroke engines puts automotive technology to shame, while a luxury electric Lear boat runs ten hours on a single charge. If that ain't green enough for you, there's always the option to use your boat less often. Still, we were wondering if green technology and less time on the water resonated with consumers. We caught up with two employees at 3A Marine, a major sales and service center just south of Boston. Dave Simmer, 3A's Marketing Director, said that fuel efficiency and pollution reduction are definitely on the minds of customers. Roughly half of the visitors to 3A's website check out their "green boating" page, while customers call to ask about fuel saving tips. "People have been conscious of it. We don't want people to not go boating, but we also want people to be responsible." We think that sounds like a common-sense approach for all forms of transporation.When it was released five years ago, the Evinrude E-Tec revolutionized not only marine engines but two-stroke engines in general. For fuel injection, the E-Tec relies on the same Lorentz coil found in loudspeakers to allow precision control of fuel droplet size. The E-Tec also avoids a need for a battery, instead relying on a magneto for reliably starting an engine that often sits in storage for the better part of a year. Jack White, 3A's Sales Manager, said that the E-Tec was extremely popular with his customers. "They've taken the technology that's the dirtiest and turned it into the cleanest -- still using two-stroke technology. It's now even cleaner than the four-stroke outboards." Even more important: boaters like it. Check out a video of it figuratively smoking a four-stroke below. Despite what the warning label on your hairdryer says, electricity and water can mix. Last week, SolidNav announced a  48 volt electric boat motor that can cruise for up to two hours. Duffy builds an electric that can cruise at five miles an hour for eight hours, while the Lear 204 runs for eleven hours. The current crop of electrics are particularly popular for cruising protected waterways, White says that he's sure that electric boats will be in his seaside showroom in the near future. "I'm sure that in a very short period of time we'll be seeing more coming about that. It hasn't reached the retail level yet, but I'm sure it's taking place in some specialty markets," he said. There's another great way to enjoy a boat responsibly: don't go very far. "I spent less money operating my boat this weekend than it would cost to take my family of four to a Boston Red Sox game," White said. "It's a minimal part of the expenses -- but I saw many people including myself maybe taking shorter trips in the boat." <!-- /* Font Definitions */ @font-face {font-family:"Cambria Math"; panose-1:2 4 5 3 5 4 6 3 2 4; mso-font-charset:1; mso-generic-font-family:roman; mso-font-format:other; mso-font-pitch:variable; mso-font-signature:0 0 0 0 0 0;} /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-unhide:no; mso-style-qformat:yes; mso-style-parent:""; margin-top:0in; margin-right:0in; margin-bottom:10.0pt; margin-left:0in; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman","serif"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language:EN-US;} .MsoChpDefault {mso-style-type:export-only; mso-default-props:yes; font-size:10.0pt; mso-ansi-font-size:10.0pt; mso-bidi-font-size:10.0pt;} @page Section1 {size:8.5in 11.0in; margin:1.0in 1.0in 1.0in 1.0in; mso-header-margin:.5in; mso-footer-margin:.5in; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} --> Innovate and conserve while still enjoying the water? We really like that idea.Despite the rise in boat foreclosures, 3A's sales manager Jack White said that sales at his shop remained strong throughout the summer as boaters demanded the fuel-efficient technology which the marine industry was happy to provide -- even technology that exceeded EPA mandates. "Even with the rise in cost with fuel, compared to what we were doing just ten years ago operational costs really didn't rise as much because of the efficiencies, which is great -- nevermind the reduction in pollution," White said. He likened sales this summer to those right after 9/11. "I thought sales would go right down the tubes, but people bought more boats because they weren't travelling," he said. "Business remains strong because people are choosing not to travel either by air or by automobile." Your turn: would the fuel-saving paradigm of technology and conservation work outside of recreational boating? We're listening. Photo by flickr user mzmo, video by youtube user jrhappel Correction: Jason Russell, SolidNav President, informed us on 10/24 that their battery-powered engines offer different ranges at different cruising speeds. "Last week, SolidNav introduced a 48 volt motor that will power the average 30 foot sailboat at cruising speed for over 40 miles," Russell told Wired.com. The motor does so "without recharging and retails for just over half the price of a comparable installed diesel."